It is estimated that between 30 and 50% of parents experience difficulties before and after welcoming a child, according to the Commission of the 1,000 first days report released in September 2020 (Editor’s note: This commission, composed of 18 early childhood specialists and chaired by neuropsychiatrist Boris Cyrulnik, aims to consider a holistic approach to the health of mothers and children to promote environments conducive to the harmonious development of the fetus and newborn, from conception to the child's second year. The report was submitted to the Ministry of Health).
"Many parents feel overwhelmed, suffering mentally, but they do not speak up for fear of judgment, fear of being seen as bad parents, out of guilt, or shame,” explains Elise Marcende. "Because having a child is supposed to be fulfilling, it’s the pinnacle of happiness. Phrases like these, and preconceived notions, are still extremely prevalent in society and leave little room for other experiences. Motherhood is not just happiness; it encompasses a range of emotions that those welcoming children will go through. It can be incredibly beautiful and enjoyable, but it can also be extremely exhausting and stressful.”
In response to maternal difficulties, such as ante and/or postnatal depression, anxiety disorders, and attachment issues with the baby or child, Maman Blues was created to support these women and sometimes men, to break isolation and open dialogue through forums and discussion groups, with the help of representatives across France who have all experienced maternal challenges themselves.
A liberation of speech that is making progress. “Unlike the beginning of our existence as an association twenty years ago, we are now heavily solicited to co-create awareness and prevention tools with health professionals and public authorities,” shares Elise Marcende. “Moreover, we are also advancing thanks to women who speak out on social media, sharing openly, discussing what they are going through, documenting their perinatal mental suffering. It is truly through the voices of those affected that things are evolving.”
